Alright, fellas, listen up. Being “nice” isn't exceptional because we're supposed to be nice. That doesn’t mean she shouldn't appreciate that you open doors, pay for dinner, or smile politely.


However, most women aren’t keeping score of how polite you are. They’re watching if you’re engaging, confident, leading, humorous, and a little bit of a challenge. Most men take this to mean be rude and obnoxious. But quite the opposite. You should always be kind and respectful — but if all you bring to the table is “I’m a good guy,” expect to be a footnote in her dating story.




Here’s how to upgrade from Mr. Nice to Mr. Can’t-Ignore-You:


1. Be a Challenge

Women love a man who’s confident and approachable. Who can impress her with grand gestures or a life story of “look how amazing I am.” But them also be real and grounded. Show her that you’re someone she can laugh with, talk to about anything, and actually enjoy being around.


2. Compliment Like You Mean It

Start with the generic “You’re beautiful.” But look at her and stare when you say it. 

And notice something special — her laugh, the way she’s passionate about her work, or how she lights up when talking about something she loves. Women love men that remember the details. Specific compliments show attention, and attention is magnetic. Again, remember, fellas: details matter.

3. Take Initiative — Without Being a Jerk

Be assertive and take charge. But not aggressive. Learn the balance of not being a doormat. You’re a man who knows what he wants. Ask her out. Plan a thoughtful date. Show interest with confidence, not desperation. And for heaven’s sake, don’t play games — women can smell that from a mile away.


4. Romance, Your Way

Be creative. Romance isn’t one-size-fits-all — it can be reciting poetry, quoting a song, or even role-playing as strangers for fun. At its core, romance is about creating moments that make you both feel seen and special. Take her somewhere that sparks real conversation. Show up with flowers, her favorite coffee, or even her go-to juice or candy. 

Offer your jacket, hold her hand, play music that makes you both laugh or smile. Create an “our song” moment. Invite her to work out together. It’s the thoughtful little things that leave the biggest mark — and make her remember you for all the right reasons.


5. Listen. Really Listen.

Here’s some wisdom: when a woman shares her struggles, she’s not handing you a problem to fix — she’s inviting you into her world. What she wants is comfort, reassurance, and presence. Sit with her. Listen. Nod. Offer thoughtful wisdom, solutions, and words of encouragement as they come... It means alot.


6. Choose Women Who Match Your Energy

Life’s too short to waste on women who won’t treat you right. If she’s rude, toxic, or carries a nasty attitude, swipe left — literally or figuratively. You deserve a real connection, not regrets. Choose a woman who values you, respects what you bring, and is ready for the love you have to give.


You’ve lived, you’ve learned, and now it’s time to show up as the man who knows his worth — without apology. That’s what makes you unforgettable. 

Be bold. Be smart. Be charming. Be you. And remember, honey: you only live once — don’t waste it being ordinary.